“I have nothing to wear!” We’ve all either heard it or said it (depending on our gender.) Today Vincent and Laura unpack the hidden meaning(s) behind this common complaint, as they take a look at five ways that couples can unwittingly destroy a conversation.
1. Talking Too Fast or Talking Over Someone
2. Not Considering The Other Person’s Point of View
3. Using Closed Body Language
4. Trying to Carry On Conversations From Another Room
5. Device Distraction by smartphones and Technology
Conversation To-Do Checklist
1. Slow down!
2. Ask yourself if you’re missing information from the person talking, before you respond.
3. Summarize what the other person is saying, and if you’ve gotten it wrong, ask more questions so that you can summarize what they are saying again.
4. Summarize until you get it right. (Usually they will nod if you’ve summarized correctly.)
5. Use open body language. (Non-intimidating eye contact, but arms and hands open and welcoming.)
6. Make it a point to speak face-to-face with someone.
7. Don’t have important “conversations” via text or email.
8. Have tech-free dinners, dates, and activities. (When you are with others, have everyone put their devices away.)
After learning how to avoid using the five ways to break down a conversation, you won’t sabotage a conversation again, unless you mean to.