064 Marriage/Personal Growth: Psychology of Love

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Have you fell for Hollywood’s (lie or lies)?

I (Vincent) was about nine years old. I wanted look cool. I wanted a girl to “go with me” – (that’s what we called it. We didn’t actually go anywhere – at most couples held hands. It was really more of a title to show that we were wanted by the opposite sex.) Nevertheless, I wanted someone to “go with me” so that I would be “kool”.

So what did any well-intentioned fourth grader do? We went to the Dart store – a local clothing store that specialized in trendy clothing or fads. Yes, I got me a pair of “parachute pants”. Michael Jackson had just come our with the Thriller album. If you were a kid then, that was “in”, then you had a pair of parachute pants. I bought the lie. I bought the lie at a young age.

So what are Hollywood’s lies?

The first lie. We are to make ourselves as attractive as possible to get the right mate. We are to make our bodies look good – work out, loose weight, get a tan, build our muscles, get the right hair cut, etc. We are to attain the right things – a new car, clothes that are in style, big house, etc. We are to achieve in work, school, sports, social status, etc. If we possess all of these outward qualities, then we will attract our perfect partner.

The second lie. Our feelings confirm our love. We get a rush of adrenaline when we are with that special person – “It must be love!” We talk with them on the phone, and we feel so good. Just being with them lifts our spirits. We can’t wait to be with them.

The third lie. Similarly, when we don’t have those euphoric feelings around our mate, then we must not be in love anymore. We reason that the “right person for me” should continue to give us those good feelings when we are around them.

The fourth lie. That special person will fulfill me and meet all my hopes and dreams. We have this false hope that when we meet that “perfect partner”, we will be happy. In the movie Jerry MacGuire, Tom Cruise’s character has an affair with his secretary. When he is about to lose her, he tells her “You complete me.” He feels like she will fulfill all of his desires of love and having a family.

Theories of Romantic Love

Well okay, I’m giving Hollywood a bad rap or at least too much credit. Many of these lies didn’t begin with motion pictures. Motion pictures was just a medium that was able to promote these ideas at a veracious pace.

The idea of romantic love began in the 12th century in southern France. Around this time, the nobles and knights had left their castles for Holy Lands to fight in the Crusades. Their wives are left at home. For entertainment, musicians or poets called troubadours would come to the court. The troubadour provided love songs, and the noblewoman provided room and board. Thus the term “courtly love” was created. The troubadours would not dare have a hint of physical consummation, or they would put their lives in jeopardy. But this undertone of attraction would develop between the singer and the listener.

The foundation of this Hollywood idea of romantic love consist of these four theories of love: eros, biology or chemistry, imago, and projection.

Eros Theory

The greek word “eros” means passionate love. It includes the sexual and sensual desires between a man and a woman. Physical attraction, or even lust are other common terms to describe it. 

In classical Greek, “Love at first sight” described eros. A person had these immediate desires upon seeing their “loved one”. When the person of their affection did not reciprocate or was away from them, then they would get “lovesick”. 

Freud describes “eros” as our life instincts or life force which included reproduction, hunger, and self preservation. He did not view “eros” as primarily our libido although it was a part of it.

Biology or Chemistry Theory

The chemistry theory supposes that their is a chemical force that pulls two people together like two hydrogens to one oxygen in water. This theory that something chemical attracts humans together has discussed since the 1800s.

In 1809, Johann Goethe published Elective Affinities which described human relationships in terms of chemical reactions. Reared as a Lutheran, he was an adamant “non-Christian” who was trying to come to terms with bonding and love through a non-subjective, chemical viewpoint.

In 1959, biochemist Adolf Butenandt discovered a hormone that travelled from a female to a male silkworm prior to mating. Subsequently, the word “pheromone” was coined, meaning a hormone that is transported outside the body to another organism. This lead to the idea that humans secrete pheromones to attract the opposite sex. But to this date, no known human pheromones have been discovered.

In 1976, researchers Candace Pert and Nancy Ostrowski found that endorphins were released during intercourse. This led to the hormone theory of love.

In 1992, neuroscientist Thomas Insel completed a study on two types of voles: prairie voles and mountain voles. He compared their mating habits and their oxytocin levels. Prairie voles who tend to be monogamous had high levels of oxytocin. Mountain voles who were promiscuous had lower levels of oxytocin.

Later research showed that oxytocin was a bonding hormone that correlated with being with a loved one. Within male/female relationships, oxytocin levels rise during kissing, hugging, and intercourse. It also stimulates the bond between a mother and her child.

Imago Theory

In the book Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix describes the imago theory. Imago is latin for image. According to Imago theory, we are unconsciously attracted to a person that reflects the positive and negative traits of our parents or caretakers. 

According to the theory, our brains have a drive to achievement health and wholeness. We have unresolved conflicts from childhood. We recreate these same patterns that we had with our parents with our spouse. Unconsciously, we try to repair or fix what was broken in childhood.

Projection Theory

Projection theory is based on the idea that men and women both have masculine and feminine qualities. According to theory, women project their “undeveloped” masculine side onto the men to whom they are attracted. Conversely, men project their “undeveloped” feminine side onto their mates.

Men may want their women to be overly nurturing – the feminine aspect that they may lack. Women may want their men to be the hero and fix everything – the masculine “take charge” attitude that they may not have developed.

We fall in love with a projection, not reality. We put all these unrealistic expectations onto our partner. We do not develop these appropriate feminine and masculine aspects in ourselves. We look outside of ourselves to find completion.

What Is the Truth?

Each of these theories contain elements of truth that have fed the lie that “romantic love” is the only true love. I (Vincent) have had clients that have adamantly defended romantic love. They say, “I don’t want them to do this or that because they are forced. I don’t want them to do it out of obligation. I want them to naturally do it. I want them to do it because they feel like it.” 

They believe love is motivated by “true feelings” which are outside of their control. They do not see any part of love as a choice or a decision.

Romantic love has elements of both feelings and logical reasoning. Healthy romantic love contains both of these elements (emotions and objective decisions) in a balance.

056 Personal Growth: Coping Skills Part 3 – Slow Down

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We hope you enjoyed last week’s episode about exercise, from our series on 101 Ways to Cope With Depression and Anxiety. Over the next seven weeks we will continue discussing over one hundred ways to cope with anxiety and depression. As we mentioned in our episode on depression and anxiety, depression and anxiety can cause discouragement and a sense of overwhelm.

Our goal for the next few weeks is to provide you with a list of coping skills that are attainable.  No one can say that they cannot do any of the over one hundred activities that will be discussing.  That’s encouraging!

Each week there will be a theme for the particular activity that is featured.  We have grouped the one hundred and one skills into ten different themes. We have already discussed God and exercise. We will continue with slowing down, fun, animals and nature, socializing, aesthetics, creating and learning, touch and smell, and helping.  

Today’s Episode

Today’s episode marks the third week in our themes:  slowing down.  In Genesis 2: 8 we learn that God made the seventh day holy and rested. From our understanding of God, He was modeling a behavior that He wanted man to imitate.

We are made in His image, and He saw it fit for us to designate time to rest.  The Sabbath was created for us to set aside work to focus on Him, but also to rest from the work that provides for our living. 

Our list today does not specify anything Sabbath-specific, but it does encourage activities that will create a refuge from the rat-race life; little mini-breaks from the bombardment of work and life stressors. 

If you have joined us in the past two episodes, you’ll remember that we have been using Philippians 4:8 as a guide. Think on things that are true, noble, just, pure, lovely and of good report. This verse is the underpinning for the series. 

Whatever is…True

29. Write in your journal.  Journaling has a “purging effect”.  It can organize your thoughts. It helps you to look at issues and ways to overcome them. It also helps you to recognize how much you have overcome in the past. 

Whatever is…Pure

5.  Slow your breathing down. Four Square Breathing is a good way to slow your breathing down which will help everything else to slow down as well.

54. Tense up your muscles and then relax them in a progressive manner. Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR) can help alleviate disturbing and disruptive emotional symptoms. This relaxation technique can help your body get out to the fight/flight response.

78. Clean a specific area in your house. People who view their homes as more cluttered find that their depression increases through the day.  Those who see their home as more orderly are less likely to be as depressed as those with messier homes.

81. Stretch. Studies reveal that stretching calms the mind, giving the mind a mental break.

97. Float on a raft or float in a pool.  Floating calms the mind and reduces stress.  It puts you in a state of sensory deprivation, creating a happier state of mind.  It also decreases the sensation of pain.

Whatever is…Lovely

6.  Use relaxation imagery meditation. Guided imagery is great way to disconnect from life’s stresses and focus on something positive and up-lifting.  With this technique, you find a quiet place to relax and then think about the most peaceful environment you can imagine.

9.  Take a leisurely drive in your car. As a child, we would occasionally, usually on Sunday, take a car ride as a family. This was a time to ride around on rural roads looking at nature or new things we had not seen such as a new house.

68. Take a yoga class. Yoga is a good way to slow your body and mind down. When you are with a class, you are more focused on fitting in. This “peer pressure” helps you to stay focused and actually do the disciplined yoga that you might not do on your own.

Whatever is…Of Good Report 

72. Tour a historical battlefield. Traveling and sight-seeing can help a depressed person look beyond themselves and boost their confidence. Visiting a historical battlefield is a way of experiencing an event with others and looking back in time.


Slowing down is an intentional act, not a lazy one. There’s a difference between proactively slowing down for the purpose of re-energizing for later work versus being aimlessly sedentary.

Today’s episode includes several different types of options for you.  If you are home and need to slow down, journaling, stretching, guided imagery, breath-work, and cleaning can provide you opportunities to unwind. 

If you’re looking to be more social, taking a yoga class or visiting a historical site with friends will offer great benefits. God is very creative and has provided His people with a variety of ways to cope with life’s stressors.

049 Marriage: When Your Spouse Has a Crisis of Faith

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Today our guest is Melissa Gendreau.  Melissa is a Christian therapist, wife and mom out of Cedar Rapids, Iowa.  She has a heart for working with families.  After receiving her bachelor’s degree, she worked with teens in a children’s home through the Boys Town organization. 

She felt led to pursue a master’s degree in community counseling after noticing the disparity between children and their families when working only with the children. During her graduate studies, she worked at Offutt Airforce Base, with military families.  

She later worked at an assessment center.  She learned about diagnosing children for treatment and placement, but was discouraged that she did not get to see the outcomes for these children. 

Spiritually, this was difficult. It was not a Christian center, and she had to emotionally detach in her role there.  She currently works in a Christian Counseling center and blogs about her experience as a Christian therapist.

What Can I Do If My Spouse is Spiritually Immature?

1.) Meet them where they are. It is not unusual for a crisis of faith to emerge when circumstances such as health scares or marital issues occur.  If your spouse is struggling, Melissa advises “meeting them where they are. We can’t nor are we supposed to ‘force’ anyone into faith.” 

2.) Pray for your spouse. It’s most important to pray for them. Pray for God to work in their hearts and to soften areas that have hardened.

3.) Pray for yourself so that you know how to be there with them. Pray for God to be able to guide you. Pray for wisdom of  when to pursue opportunities and when to be patient. 

You will have to be mindful of avoiding nagging your spouse.  We have a tendency to want to “nudge” our spouses into a direction.  It is not helpful.  You want your demeanor to encourage an open dialogue.

4.) Have a conversation with your spouse where you ask them what role they feel comfortable with you playing.   They may be comfortable praying with you, or may not.  

You may find it may not be your role to help guide your spouse back to God; it could be someone else’s. You may have to be willing for you spouse to speak with a godly friend or elder of your church instead of you. 

What Is My Role In Helping My Spouse?

Your role may be to be a cheerleader, a teacher, or to be a good listener who provides the environment for them to explore.  Ask your spouse what role they are comfortable with you playing.  We are prone to try to guess this, but this is not helpful. Be direct. Ask.

Melissa affirms that if the spouse is allowed to question, it creates opportunities to actually deepen faith.  Don’t get caught up in the mentality that we should not question things, because our relationship is to be a personal one with God.  It is not someone else’s faith, it’s yours.  Don’t just worship God with a blind faith because someone else told you to.  

If you are to stand back and play the role of someone who prays for the situation, it is going to be important to give God control and trust in Him.  If we do not do this, we could actually do more harm than good and sabotage the process.

Q & A With Melissa

As a therapist, what do you find most helpful when working with clients?

Teaching clients the progression of thoughts lead to emotions and behaviors.  Thoughts are based on past experiences, past hurts, and our perceptions of reality.  Through these our emotions flow.

It’s important to understand the thought process. In 2 Corinthians 10:5 Paul says we have to take our thoughts captive.  We need to make this a practice.

Ask yourself if your thoughts are aligned biblically or are they irrational.  If you find that you are discouraged because of your behaviors or emotions, it is important to learn where they are coming from and to work on how you think.  Many times people act on untruths that they have believed to be true. 

What is your most effective relationship skill?

Understanding your own worth through God, your identity in Christ.  Your self-worth flows out in your interactions with people.  If you do not love yourself well, others will not treat you well, either.  God’s love can’t flow out of us if we do not accept that He loves and values us, too. 

If we do not acknowledge His love for us as individuals, it cannot flow out to others from us.  If we are not connected FIRST with God, then any ministerial work or relationships with others will burn out as we are trying to do things out of our own energy not from God.

What is your current passion?

I am in the process of writing a bible study for parents of teens. The focus of it is to help parents of teens to be able to address difficult topics that are happening right now.  Our teens are struggling and questioning faith in comparison to what society talks about.  

I met with teens at my church and asked them “What do you feel like your parents don’t know or don’t understand about such and such topic so that they can help you better?”  

I then reached out to the parents and asked the exact same thing. The goal is to be able to address some of these big society topics, but recognize that from a biblical standpoint all of these have an answer.  Giving the parents the tools that this is just as relevant today as two thousand years ago.

My hope is for it to be available on my website in 2019.

Final Lap: Speed Round

What has been your biggest stumbling block in your relationship with God?

There have been times where I’ve questioned whether I’m worthy of His love.  I’ve allowed my own past insecurities to get in the way.  I’ve had to remember and focus on God’s truth.  Making sure that I’m armed with God’s truth about what He says about me.

Sometimes clients will feel like they have had success with their anxiety, depression or in their family and then feel they are under attack.  It means you are living life for God.  You’re being a little bit of thorn in Satan’s side.  

What is the best advice you’ve ever received?

You don’t have to do and be all things.  I can say ‘no’ and that won’t affect my worth.

Who do you admire the most, other than a biblical figure, and why?

My husband.  He is a stay-at-home, homeschool daddy.  He is my techie.  It’s not at all what he envisioned for his life.  God started nudging us and it is something he willing embraced.  He is an amazing teacher to the kids.   How beautiful that is to see–dad teaching the kids!  

What is your favorite book, besides the Bible, and why?

I read all the time.  The book “Captivating” by John and Stasi Eldredge is a favorite.  It is such a beautiful book about how God designed women.  I’ll recommend that to a lot of my female clients, but I’ve also recommended it to husbands, to read, too. I love the vulnerability and the clarity that that book provides.  

More recently, I’ve read “Everybody Always” by Bob Goff.  He writes it so full of God’s love.  Just be love.  It’s not so easy when the people around you aren’t so loveable.  He talks about loving everybody always; no matter what, and how amazing and powerful that can be to other people and glorifying to God.  It’s a delightful easy read.  

Parting Wisdom  

Meet everybody where they are.  That’s the most important thing we can do for everyone around us.  When we start putting expectations on other people, the relationships start going down. But when we meet them where they are, it’s so much easier to love them and provide joy to them and get to be that support and encouragement that they need. 

I think sometimes people misunderstand this and think it means that we accept everything they are doing.  No, it means to love who they are as a person, and be able to stand beside them, to walk with them on that journey wherever they need to go. 

You may not agree with what they are doing at all.  That doesn’t mean you accept or encourage the behaviors that they are doing, but instead love them as people, hopefully guiding them along the way.



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Melissa Gendreau
Melissa Gendreau, Christian Therapist
Crisis tests the mettle of marriage.  If the spiritual foundation is weak, then the relationship is likely to falter. Many spouses struggle when they feel that their significant other is drifting away from their faith.  In today's episode our guest Melissa Gendreau provides guidance on how to cope with spiritual imbalance in marriage.  She gives helpful tips on how to be a praying spouse and how to help the wayward spouse.
Crisis tests the mettle of marriage.  If the spiritual foundation is weak, then the relationship is likely to falter. Many spouses struggle when they feel that their significant other is drifting away from their faith.  In today’s episode our guest Melissa Gendreau provides guidance on how to cope with spiritual imbalance in marriage.  She gives helpful tips on how to be a praying spouse and how to help the wayward spouse.

048 Marriage: Am I a Selfish Spouse?

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Today marks the sixth and final episode in our series on anger and marriage.  Over the last few weeks we’ve taken a look at being more responsible in our marriages by stopping “the blame game”, we’ve given tips to overcome magnifying the problems in your marriage, we’ve looked at how damaging name calling is in “What Do You Call Your Spouse?” and what can be done about it, we’ve helped you determine if you “mind-read” your spouse and what to do instead, and we’ve looked at how detrimental complaining can be to a relationship and how to remedy it. 

Now we take on one of the most common complaints we see in marriage counseling:  selfishness.  Usually by the time we see a couple for marriage counseling and the complaint of selfishness is the issue, the couple has been together for a while.  Usually some act of selfishness is the final straw that brings the couple in to counseling.

This selfishness comes across as being demanding or commanding with their needs, wants or values. When the other spouse does not have the same value or need, then they get angry and push their agenda onto the other by being demanding and commanding.

Selfish acts can be obvious such demanding sex at a certain time, but it can be more subtle.  It could be the things that you do out of fear that keep you from having a healthy relationship.  Negative coping mechanisms can be selfish.  Independent behavior can be selfish.

Selfishness Disguised as Selflessness:

As Christian marriage therapists, it’s not unusual for us to see couple’s where the spouses have many commitments to their church.  Sometimes a marriage suffers because of poor boundaries as it relates to the church.  

For example:  Always saying ‘yes’ to requests for volunteers and helping all the time at the expense of sacrificing family time.  Enjoying a little too much the greeting time during service by giving hugs to those of the opposite sex in excess or lingering in these moments.

Say ‘Yes’ To Your Marriage

If you are struggling because you are a “yes man”, otherwise known as a people-pleaser, it is important to understand that this behavior may make you look good to other people (which very well could be stroking your ego and pride), but it does not help your family. What seem to be selfless acts by outsiders could be destroying your marriage. 

For men, this may come in the form of helping repair someone’s car or fixing a plumbing issue at someone’s house when there are needed repairs at your own.

For women, this may be taking care of someone’s child a neighbor’s or family member’s when your children or your husband doesn’t get the proper amount of quality time with you.

It will be important to prioritize your marriage.  You may have to have conversations with those who approach you for commitments and explain that you cannot be involved this time.  Being able to say ‘no’ is a skill. 

The Bible & Husbands

If you are a leader in your church consider 1 Timothy 3: 1-5:  Here is a trustworthy saying: Whoever aspires to be an overseer desires a noble task. Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect.

If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church? It is good to take time and self-reflect. Many times, we make ourselves too busy to do this. Are you taking care of your family?

Fiscally Irresponsible

Another subtle form of selfishness in marriage is being irresponsible with money.  It could mean shopping excessively, making expensive purchases without your spouse’s knowledge or turning a blind eye to finances. 

For women, this may come in the form of buying a new outfit every week or having a spa too often. Women, who struggle in this area seem, to buy a lot of small items (less than $200) without telling or consulting their husband.

For men, this could be buying a boat or ATV without discussing it with your wife. Men, who struggle in this area, seem to make big expenditures and tell their wife later. Their attitude is I am going ahead and buy it, and then ask for forgiveness later.

Not taking an active role in your family’s budget and finances places your family’s wellbeing in jeopardy. It is an act of selfishness.

In a healthy marriage, couples decide on a budget together. They discuss income as well as expenditures.

Down Time

Having a girl’s night or going fishing with buddies is not necessarily a bad thing. Many times it is NECESSARY. But when it is done without prior approval of your spouse OR it is done at the sacrifice of time spent with your family or spouse on a consistent basis, this behavior is selfish.  

One of the first things to go when a couple is struggling, is recreational and leisure time.  It is important to consider our spouses when we unwind from the daily grind.

In a healthy marriage, couple discuss how they are going to spend their leisure time. Show your spouse you care about him or her by participating in an activity that they enjoy without sulking and being passive aggressive.

047 Marriage: Is Complaining Ruining Your Marriage?

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If you are involved in any social media, you inevitably have run into followers or friends who chronically complain.  You may have felt so inclined to “hide” them from your newsfeed due to the sheer negativity that they permeate.  

Social media has made it easy to avoid these complainers with the “unfollow” feature, but what happens when you see this person day to day?  Even worse, you can’t exactly “unfollow” your spouse if he or she happens to be a negative Nelly.  

Maybe even worse still, what if YOU are the chronic complainer in your relationships?

Next in our series on anger and marriage, we are addressing overgeneralization.  


Overgeneralization is making one, single event into an unbearable situation.  Sometimes these are thoughts, other times these thoughts are expressed out loud.  

Examples would be:  “Church is always boring.”  “No one likes me at school.”  “I’m always the butt of jokes.”  “Everybody thinks I’m stupid.” 

Examples for a married couple could be:  “You never listens to me.”  “You always leave me to take care of the kids and clean the house.”  

Overgeneralization is a negative thinking habit.  Many people who experience depression and/or anxiety suffer from this “thought trap.”

Thought traps are like a cassette tape (yeah, those things that existed back in the 80s, hello fellow children of the 80s!!!) that loops over and over again in your mind.  It’s like someone hits the “repeat” button repeatedly—and the person hitting that repeat button is you.

How Can I Overcome Being A Chronic Complainer? 

So what is a chronic complainer to do?  Let’s take a look at complaining in the Bible. 

Complainers In The Bible

As the Israelites trekked through the desert, the Lord rained down manna from heaven.  This was God-made food, readily available, at their feet. 

After a few days of God-made food, readily available, at their feet, the Israelites tired of it and complained.  Notice I didn’t start the story off with “The Israelites got tired of manna and complained.” 

The Israelites lost their focus on God and focused on themselves.  Through the difficulties of being away from their homeland and being enslaved you could say they had some deep-seeded soul wounds.  

We all have been hurt by others; in one way or another.  How we respond to it speaks to our thought life and our character.  Bitterness and resentment, like the Israelites mentioned above, could lead someone to respond with complaining.  

Later, in the New Testament you will find that Jesus was often tested by complainers.  Never did He validate the behavior. 

Jesus was an awesome teacher.  He always turned a complaint into a learning opportunity. When someone complained, He responded in a way that would force the complainer to look at his heart.  In essence, He helped the complainers expose the ugly parts of their hearts.

What Can I Do With These Ugly Parts of My Heart? 

If you’re starting to feel like a well-fed, complaining Israelite as you listen to this, take heart.  The great thing about our God is that He provides. 

One of the most powerful tools He has created for us is prayer.  When we pray His will, it’s like we have a direct line to the boss.  Even better, remember this:  When we accept Jesus, we accept that He has already saved us.  We’re already seated with Him. 

When you pray, you are praying from a position of victory in the heavens.  Ask Him about the areas in your life that you need to be open for Him to work on.  


As mentioned above, this is about His will, not our own.  He wants us recognize how and what He has provided for us.  It is very difficult to chronically complain if you chronically rejoice through gratitude.

When you rejoice through gratitude, you are speaking truth into the situation. Many times, we get very narrow-minded when we view our situation. We have trouble seeing the “God view”. Speaking gratitude helps to have a more eternal viewpoint.

How To Address a Negative Spouse

As we are rejoicing with gratitude to ourselves, we need to continue this with our negative spouse. When that spouse is negative, we need to be assertive and counter that negativity with truth in a loving manner.

Here’s an example. You have a flat tire on the highway on your way to church. Your negative spouse may say something like, “Things always happen to me at the worse time. Now, I have to change a tire in my good clothes.”

You could let that comment go and not respond, which would be passive. Or you could be assertive and say something like, “Although it may be inconvenient to change a tire in good clothes, I sure am glad that this happened with both of us here…or I am glad this didn’t happen on the interstate…or I am glad this didn’t happen on the way to the hospital…or I sure am glad that this didn’t happen yesterday when it was raining, etc.”

Hopefully, you get the point. There are many ways to view the situation as positive. It just may take some creativity and intentionality to do it.

Paul:  A Character Study

As we’ve mentioned in our previous episodes on anger and marriage, Paul is a great example to fashion our lives after.  He withstood a great deal of trials being imprisoned, flogged, mocked, and endured all sorts of persecution.  Yet the man ALWAYS recognized God’s blessing and was grateful for His salvation.

If we lived out our salvation daily, what would that look like?  I think it would mean we should often have gratitude and grace on our lips.